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Pennsylvania Family Law Blog 
Help.I know you would be taking your own time answering these questions. Please, please help.
I will try to be as breif as possible. I figured out that I was gay 9 years into my marriage. I told her and she kicked me out and kept everything. She got a boy friend with in a year and he moved in. We have 2 children that has not become a problem yet. We have been separated for almost 5 yrs. I pay almost $1000 in child support and over $200 in spousal. I had cancer this year and was on disability for 8 mos. I lost everything in the process. Because I am gay, she wants me to suffer and pay for her for the rest of her life. I have tried to fight the support (not child support) and everytime I do I get nailed for more. I am paying $1250 a mo. now because of arrears when I was sick. It leaves me with less than $800 to live on. I have gave up 2 meals a day to survive and no one cares.
There must be something I can do. It has been almost 2 years since I filed for divorce. Even the judge at the support hearing we were at said that he didn’t understand why it hasn’t gone through yet and he wanted to know if he could help.
I claimed bankruptcy right after the separation and all bills were included. She owed nothing, not even a gas bill. I can prove that. All the calculations made are from her expenses now. We didn’t own the house and paid $400 rent. After she got the house given to her from her mom, she took a loan against it and can’t even afford the yearly taxes. She has dug herself a hole expects me to cover all her new loans and bills. These have all been done way after the separation by her and her boyfriend. He has live there for 4 years and at least a year without a job on my money.
I was going to turn her in for her sewer which would cost her $15,000, but that would make her have to sell the house and I don’t want that for the kids. I don’t need to get charged harrassment.
I just need her scared into signing. There are no assets.
I have no money and am about to lose my apartment. What can I do to force her into the divorce? I know that she can’t get the alimony because of him living there after she signs, but she knows that to.
Tim Smith
March 20, 2008 at 3:02 pm
Sorry, forgot to tell you, I do live in PA.
Tim Smith
March 20, 2008 at 3:04 pm